Whew…I’m sighing with great relief!
My kids came home with honor roll again, but thats not really why I am sighing. I am very grateful they are taking their classes seriously but… this whole middle school thing is new territory for all of us.
My son, my cute cute son broke a rule yesterday.
He asked a girl out. His words to me, “MOM< I asked her if she’d go out with me”. Me: WHHhhhhhhhyyyyyyyyyy????
“Go where son?”
Where are you really gonna go?
pointless.
I know everyone has an opinion of when it is age appropriate for kids to be involved in exclusive relationships. I shouldn’t say everyone. Some parents don’t know and don’t care. sad.
BUT my opinion, lead by my own personal convictions, is flat out NO. I am not for middle school relationships. I have held my kids from being exclusive with anyone even though the pressure at school is great to call someone a girlfriend or boyfriend at this age. Im not even sure I will allow it in highschool, Im just following the leading of my heart. I will know when it is right.
I should be thankful for this small fish to fry. I mean I know there are some kids truly struggling with so many other things SO thank GOD this is something I can work with.
My daughter has really caught on to my wisdom on this. We have had many talks about this. She knows there’s no where to go, and mostly she knows how it ruins friendships, which is hard enough to maintain in middle school. I’ve had those talks with my son also, and the last time, a girl asked him out and his reply was,” If we break up then it will be awkward between us and I want you keep you as a friend”. He actually said that. He does listen to my words…but this time..
Here’s the story:
A few guys dared my boy to ask this girl out and he caved.
When I told him he had to go back to school and undo this he got really upset with me. He then told me he was gonna be called a “player”. I warned him…I so warned him..
But he went against better judgement and fell into a trap. I am happy that he was concerned he would hurt the girls feelings but life, it…yea
The pressure to “be” was greater than he could handle. That’s what makes me wanna..I better not say. The boys told him he must be gay if he didn’t ask her out. That pushed him right on over the edge..
Today, my tenderhearted boy had to face an awkward situation with a really sweet but heartbroken girl. I made him break that off and be truthful with her about the situation.
Feelings are not to be played with. That’s why I hover. { i wish more parents would}
He just came through the door with a smile on his face. Mostly from the straight A’s he earned but also from the ease at which he moved through that messy situation. {mama’s prayers}
That’s was my sigh of relief.
