One day this lady, who will remain nameless in this blog, came and sat down beside me and told me that we had nothing in common. Yea, it was pretty much that simple. As she looked at me, I wondered where she was going with this statement! I did my typical head tilt and smile, hoping this would get better. She then went on to say she wanted to be my friend but we were interested in different things and she didnt know how to fit in my world. WHOA! I was perplexed and speechless. I don’t require alot of similarities for friendship! But unfortunately this person perceived me to be a certain way based on my appearance. I love this statement, “You dont know me”! I guess people think because I like nice clothes that all I do is shop. The truth is that since I have had Jaydon, Id just rather not. If I could afford it, I’d have a personal shopper. I can take the teasing and poking fun, but you’d have to really know me to get the stuff thats underneath my appearance. I love to study and do my own research. I love words and the meaning of them. I love reading. But then these are things that you wouldnt know about me if you based me on what you got at church. I guess some people just think I sit around and sing all day and lead my family into worship at home in my highheels! Sheesh! In reality Id rather be enjoying my sofa with a cup of coffee.
Maybe its safe to say that we have all been underestimated. Maybe its something we feel directly or indirectly. I know the message I heard today hit home with me and was all too familiar! We hope the ones we love will cheer us on til we reach our goals, yet we are under esteemed and in our weakness we are limited like a bird whose wings have been clipped. I’ve been in scenarios where “The Pastor” is on vacation and the person appointed to fill the pulpit will “just do”. You could invite that same person to a be a keynote speaker in another avenue, and with celebration of their arrival, their gift is accepted, received, and enjoyed. When you place limitations on people by comparing them with another style or preference, cuz we all know we have our preferences, we place a ceiling on the possibilities of greatness within them.
I wonder…..Maybe Jesus couldn’t perform miracles in his hometown because people wanted to relate to him for how they knew him, and not based on the very power of God that dwelled within him. Just a thought. maybe an experience.
Its hard to come in second when first is so good. I could be referred to as a second because my husband is so good at what he does. I’ve been guilty of overcompensating for that very reason. Maybe it was an inward battle or maybe it was pressure from expectation. Im free today knowing that if God places the position in front of me, its mine for who I am, not just because “Ill do”. (or maybe like Pastor said, I got over it!)
another side note**** When we learn to put aside our preferences, we can celebrate the uniqueness in every gift. I’ve never heard anywhere that God gives us a half-supply. Its just up to us to place the demand on the gift.